December 10, 2020: I spoke with Ladies of Paradise about my sex and cannabis intimacy journal.
Ladies of Paradise: What do you do?
Sophie Saint Thomas: I write passionately, in particular, about sex, cannabis, and subculture.
October 27, 2020: I shared my secrets to stoned sex with Uproxx.
“What we do know about cannabis is that it’s an anti-inflammatory. It can be useful in suppositories and topicals, but then it has to connect directly with the mucus membrane so that just works on vaginas and anally, the penis isn’t made the same way. It can be a really great pain reliever. Cannabis suppositories and lubricants have been what has been missing in anal sex preparation in terms of making the area more comfortable and loosened up. If you go to a CVS you can get lubes with numbing agents but they tend to numb you out to the point where even if bodily harm is happening you can’t feel it. Cannabis’ pain reliving properties are a bit more subtle, so I feel a lot safer using it in that sense.”
October 9, 2020: Thank you Tina Horn for interviewing me for Playboy about using fast-acting edibles for a quickie!
“Adding weed to the equation can make things even hotter. Unsurprisingly, the Playboy sex survey found that the vast majority of respondents—75 percent—reported pairing sex with cannabis during lockdown. THC is a vasodilator, meaning it increases blood flow, so in addition to the euphoria or high you may feel from consuming cannabis, it can also enhance sexual pleasure. The new intimacy journal from Goldleaf outlines several ways to incorporate weed into your sex life and includes a log book. The idea is to document play and calibrate “couture stoned sex” experiences, as Sophie Saint Thomas, who co-developed the journal, explains in its foreword.
“When it comes to cannabis, there’s not a one-size-fits-all model,” Saint Thomas tells Playboy. “For me, it might be a 30 milligram edible taken an hour before sex. For someone else, it might be a joint they share with their partner after sex.” As I was replaying my hot afternoon hookup in my head, I wondered what might best work for my own cannabis-enhanced quickie.”
September 11, 2020: Thank you NPR for interviewing me for your article on a dating guide for the pandemic!
“St. Thomas says it’s perfectly normal to want to reach out to an ex during this time and check in — in a dramatically changing world, it’s OK to want to check in on people who have been an important part of your life. But that doesn’t always mean it’s a good idea to reignite a relationship that previously ended.
“It’s so easy to [reach out], especially if you are socially isolated,” she says. “[But] if someone is still a pain point for you, if it’s something that is still fresh, I would caution against it.”
Restarting things with an ex could potentially lead to mixed expectations about the relationship this time around or could negatively affect the progress you’ve both made since the breakup, St. Thomas says. Instead, she says, rely on your support group. Friends, family and a therapist are all good people to talk to about rekindling an old flame.”
High Times says you should buy my book, Finding Your Higher Self: Your Guide to Cannabis for Self-Care
High Times Magazine named me one of their “100 Women in High Places.” You can buy a copy of the issue here.
Sophie Saint Thomas photographed at the High Times Women of Weed Event in Los Angeles, California, in October of 2018
“Remember to lean into your weirdness, and that the shadow sides of you that you were once ashamed of are what will ultimately lead you to success.” – Sophie Saint Thomas
Slutist named me their January 2017 Slut of the Month. Click the link to read the profile in its entirety.
The Present: Writing, expressing gratitude to have managed to make a decent living by writing (a feat years in the making) studying the occult, trying to always be a good friend and help out other women, brewing lots of tea and herbal concoctions. Overusing glitter.
The Future: At some point, someone is going to give me a lot of money to write a book that I hope some motherfuckers will want to burn.
Photo by Lara Callahan
Brooklyn Magazine named me one of their 30 Under 30 as part of their 2016 annual Envy List.
In an era when most of us are desensitized to the most taboo topics, writer Sophie Saint Thomas still manages to find subjects that seem pretty shocking (or, at the very least, you may not send many of her articles to your mom). With regular bylines at Vice and Broadly, she has spent the summer writing about people with surprising interests—couples who get off on tattooing each other, real-life vampires who search for human blood, and neo-pagans who concoct love potions for the bedroom. But Saint Thomas is able to write about her subjects without an exploitative streak, which is perhaps the toughest skill of all: to make the extraordinary somehow ordinary—amusingly titillating and recognizably human all at once.
Photo by Cody Orrell